Responsibility

You know, I am not the type to tell you to suppress your feelings. I actually welcome the sharing .. or the jabber. Whatever it is that you have lingering inside .. whether it be love, irritation, pain or utter joy, share it. Voice your feelings. I think that we have spent too much time learning to “be quiet” and be “appropriate”. Well who’s to say that it is improper to honor yourself and what you feel by articulating it. Remember you are not responsible for OTHER PEOPLE’s feelings. You cannot sacrifice yourself for the sake of saving others and their own suppressed emotions. We have to retrain ourselves. Gain a new perspective on how we feel and define the reaction taking place within us. The problem with us is that we don’t know what we are feeling. Take the time to truly understand what you are going through. Define your emotions and blurt it out. Once you do this, you have to be prepared to elaborate on it though. It’s actually fairly easy. We have been doing it since we’ve learned how to talk: “I’m cold”, “I’m hungry”, “I’m hurt” so on and so forth.

“As you prepare to acknowledge your feelings aloud, gently remind yourself that being specific is an important part of exercising control. Whatever the nature of your feelings, carefully define the reaction taking place within you. If you are afraid of a situation or intimidated by an individual, try not to mince your words while giving voice and life to your anxiety. The precision with which you express yourself is indicative of your overall willingness to stare your feelings in the face without flinching”. You have the right to express YOU.

The longing and the ambiguity will soon diminish and you will feel a sense of liberation. No matter the reaction of the other individual, you have the right to express what is within and they have the right to know so that they can make a better decision about what it is they now have to face … with or without you.

~ Be free. Be honest. Be vocal .. especially with yourself.