Category: Wellness

You know, I am not the type to tell you to suppress your feelings. I actually welcome the sharing .. or the jabber. Whatever it is that you have lingering inside .. whether it be love, irritation, pain or utter joy, share it. Voice your feelings. I think that we have spent too much time learning to “be quiet” and be “appropriate”. Well who’s to say that it is improper to honor yourself and what you feel by articulating it. Remember you are not responsible for OTHER PEOPLE’s feelings. You cannot sacrifice yourself for the sake of saving others and their own suppressed emotions. We have to retrain ourselves. Gain a new perspective on how we feel and define the reaction taking place within us. The problem with us is that we don’t know what we are feeling. Take the time to truly understand what you are going through. Define your emotions and blurt it out. Once you do this, you have to be prepared to elaborate on it though. It’s actually fairly easy. We have been doing it since we’ve learned how to talk: “I’m cold”, “I’m hungry”, “I’m hurt” so on and so forth.

“As you prepare to acknowledge your feelings aloud, gently remind yourself that being specific is an important part of exercising control. Whatever the nature of your feelings, carefully define the reaction taking place within you. If you are afraid of a situation or intimidated by an individual, try not to mince your words while giving voice and life to your anxiety. The precision with which you express yourself is indicative of your overall willingness to stare your feelings in the face without flinching”. You have the right to express YOU.

The longing and the ambiguity will soon diminish and you will feel a sense of liberation. No matter the reaction of the other individual, you have the right to express what is within and they have the right to know so that they can make a better decision about what it is they now have to face … with or without you.

~ Be free. Be honest. Be vocal .. especially with yourself.

TRANSITION OF A LIFETIME ….

It’s easy to fall into the comfort of one’s life. To learn how to adapt to what you have become by merely being devoid of the purpose of what you are doing.

Today I was blessed to be here for a good friend. To be the ear that listens, the heart that aches along with theirs, the voice of reason, the sledge hammer of truth and the eyes that are open. Throughout the conversation, she kept telling me how grateful she was for me and how much she respected and loved me for bringing sense into her life … when at the end of it all, it was her that opened my eyes; that made me finally HEAR all that I was merely just listening to.

What is it about the coming to the close of another year that brings us to our knees? To go through this painful self evaluation (which usually only sees everything that we failed to accomplish or obtain in the years past). It’s funny what we put ourselves through.

The topic of conversation this evening was “Being Demotivated”. When someone puts their entire being into something, goes full force and then fizzles out … does that equal instant failure? Not necessarily. It’s merely a transition .. and an uneasy one at that. All transitions, positive and negative are uneasy. It’s up to you how you want to guide that uneasiness. You either go towards a good response or a negative reaction. You have to visualize the outcome that you would want to occur and tell the universe how it should be so that it happens.

I can’t speak for anyone else, but can only share what I know … my experience. This year was definitely a year of transition for me. I wanted to show you a timeline of that transition. When I first started out, I had a goal. It was vague, but it was real ~ I want to look like “her”. Who that “her” was ~ who knows. Just someone (anyone) that could wear whatever they wanted without the worries of a fat belly hanging over their belt; or if the color made them look even larger than they were; maybe someone that didn’t have to hide that extra inch (who were they fooling anyways?) … well, it’s not really important! I started with a Trainer, Shadow. We had a plan, a strict diet and an emotional breakdown … then we were off. I went ALL OUT! Gave all of me! I was at the gym everyday. Ate better foods. Consulted with him for every next move .. then EFFIN FIZZLED like a wet firecracker. I felt demotivated (or I simply was giving up). He taught me to understand that me fizzling out and becoming demotivated were two totally separate things. One was, my body needed rest and the other, was me giving up because I became uneasy. I was totally out of my comfort zone and didn’t know what to do with myself. See?! One just has to be able to stop and understand what they are feeling. Feel, honor that feeling, act towards what you want the outcome to be and the understanding will present itself. You know, it’s true what they say … the best way to get somewhere is one foot taking a step in front of the other (repeat ~ hahaha).

Transition is a great thing. You can’t just be stuck in one place (bad or good), it get’s boring and that’s a whole ‘nother can of worms. Becoming demotivated, that’s temporary … being uneasy because of a transition in your life or attitude is amazing!! Because when one is uneasy, it promotes change. Now, make the conscious decision to make a positive change.

I’ll leave you with 3 things that I do EVERYDAY (it seems to keep me sane):

1 ~ Make my bed ~ My mother always told me, “Make your bed. Then if everything else in your day goes wrong, then at least you did one thing right.”

2 ~ My Daily Mantra: Kat, everything you say and do today, say and do it with a purpose ~ It helps me stop and smell the roses. I move so quickly and think on my toes, that life passes me by too often. If I force myself to have a purpose for all that I say, then I REALLY MEANT TO SHARE IT. If I force myself to have a purpose for all that I do, then it leads me closer to one of my goals.

3 ~ Cry ~ I cry for things that make me sad because I have lost or missed out on something or someone and it reminds to always cherish that specific experience. & I cry for all that makes me happy because I can appreciate what that was and I am overwhelmed with love and joy for it.

~ Namaste ~

“Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” ~ George Bernard Shaw